Couch Zionism; the Yearning and Contribution of the Jewish Diaspora

Zionism is often seen as a grand national mission, but it’s also deeply personal. Join me as I explore how we can balance individual needs with collective responsibility, framing Zionism as a shared effort rooted in a connection to shared values and mutual respect. This article was inspired by a conversation I had with a young woman on our way to the Kotel. Her reflections on the connection between Jews in Israel and the diaspora, and the story she shared about her nephew, deeply resonated with me and shaped the ideas I explore here.

Couch Zionism: Reclaiming the Term

"Couch Zionism" is often used as a negative term, but I am reclaiming it with a new perspective. The yearning for the Land of Israel is not just an emotional longing—it is part of the mitzvah and obligation of being a Jew. While we are still in exile (galut), our primary focus must remain on fulfilling mitzvot and living a healthy, balanced life.

It is often said that one may leave the Land of Israel for livelihood (parnassah) or to find a spouse (shidduch). I would argue that this allowance extends to other critical needs, such as maintaining one’s mental health, ensuring personal security, accessing family support, and finding a community that aligns with one’s values and cultural nuances. The chinuch (education) of one’s children and the ability to integrate into a community where you feel you belong are essential considerations when deciding where to live.

Growing up, I experienced firsthand the challenges and harms that can arise when a family lives in Israel but struggles to integrate into the culture and school system. It is gratifying to see so many young couples today being thoughtful and deliberate about their decision to stay in Israel, while others heroically move back to the States, prioritizing their children’s needs and well-being above all else.

While the decision to live in Israel is deeply personal, the connection between Jews in Israel and the diaspora is equally significant as seen through the inspiring stories of visitors and their impact.


Visitors to Israel: A Source of Inspiration

I recently met a young American woman on her way to the Kotel. After helping her find her way, we walked together, and she shared her reflections on the impact of visitors to Israel, specifically seminary and yeshiva students and olei regel who come for the chagim.

My personal feeling is that their presence is uplifting. It’s inspiring to see Jews from around the world showing their support and connection to the Land of Israel. At the same time, it’s important for visitors to respect the cultural norms and standards of those who live here. For us, living in Israel is not just a privilege but an opportunity to be a part of a divine and sacred mission. Our daily lives contribute to preserving and protecting a secure, free, and vibrantly religious Jewish homeland—not just for ourselves, but for the joy and benefit of our brethren in the diaspora who come to visit.




The Role of Diaspora Support

The political and economic support of Jews in the diaspora is invaluable. It strengthens the Jewish state and ensures its continued vitality. However, Zionism is not a one-size-fits-all mission.

After sharing her inquiry and reflections, this young woman shared with me a story that highlights the balance between practicality vs. perseverance in the Zionist journey. During the recent war, her nephew was studying in yeshiva and wanted to return home. His mother, balancing support with encouragement, bought him three refundable tickets, giving him the option to leave while urging him to stick it out. Each time, he chose to stay, ultimately growing through the experience. I found this anecdote particularly compelling, as it illustrates the delicate balance between support and autonomy in one’s Zionist journey and underscores the importance of choice and conviction over guilt or coercion.



Zionism: A Shared Mission, Not a Competition

Some people judge those who only come to Israel when it’s convenient, but I believe guilt and pressure have no place in the Zionist mission. Even during times of war, many who live in Israel choose to leave temporarily for their safety. This is not a failure of Zionism—it’s a reflection of the complexity of life.

Even Maimonides (Rambam) left Israel for Egypt due to the persecution he faced under Christian Crusader rule. I would argue that the Rambam's choice was in adherence to a higher mission, that of the protection of life for oneself and one's family. Pursuing self-interest in such cases is not a betrayal of Zionism, it's a recognition of the challenges involved.

While it is true that Zionism, like many aspects of life, requires delayed gratification and self-sacrifice, these sacrifices should stem from a sense of duty and connection to a mission larger than oneself—not from guilt or external pressure. This is a shared national project, not a competition to determine who is the “better Jew.”

Zionism should never be about guilt or coercion but about shared responsibility for the preservation of our shared biblical legacy and heritage; the Zionist mission thrives best when it comes from a place of personal conviction and connection. Whether in Israel or the diaspora, every Jew has a role to play in building a vibrant, enduring Jewish future. Let us approach this mission with respect, understanding, and a sense of collective purpose.